It’s Menopause Awareness Month and many of us find ourselves with a daily awareness of some aspect of menopause. Some of us say we’re long past it, but we still get hot flashes occasionally. Some of us are in the midst of it ,and it’s driving us crazy. And some of us just breeze through it all. If you need to talk about menopause – let’s talk. My gift to you this month and next – let’s talk about what’s going on in your body and what to do about it. Write me an email and let me know when you’re available to talk firstname.lastname@example.org
I always say that you know you’re in midlife when you’re doing what you’ve always done – except now your body isn’t letting you get away with it. You’re eating the way you always have – but now you’re gaining weight. You’re trying to sleep (or not sleep) the way you always have – but now you’re falling asleep in meetings or in other inappropriate places.
The fact that your body is changing is usually a tip off that you’re in midlife – and perhaps for some this precipitates some sort of crisis. My hunch is that is more true for men than for women. Women tell me that they now feel invisible because their bodies have changed and men don’t notice them anymore.
But my hunch is that for most of us the real crisis in midlife had nothing to do with menopause. Instead our crises had to do with relationships changing: children leaving home, or returning home because they couldn’t make it on their own, aging parents who need help or who have departed, spouses or partners who have departed or who are driving us crazy. Yearning for a new spouse or partner, for children we never had, for new friends who get what we’re going through, for something other than what we have.
Given the U.S. economy many of us found ourselves hit by layoffs, and unemployed for long periods of time, with rampant ageism making job opportunities harder to find than before. Many of us lost a chunk of our retirement savings and find ourselves wondering whether we’ll ever be able to retire or whether we would outlive our savings.
If your midlife crisis had nothing to do with menopause (or even if it did) please join me for a magical event I’m hosting on October 25th and 26th in Mountain View, CA. It’s called From Struggle to WOW and it’s all about taking care of yourself, for a change. You’ll meet new friends and learn some vital 21st century success strategies and have fun for 2 whole days. Click here to register: www.womenwowtheworld.com